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Reminiscing Childhood At Deolali by Anita Mehta nee Gehi

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We were in the middle of Lockdown 1.
There was so much silence, not a person was around in

the otherwise busy compound in Kataria Colony.
All I could hear were the bird songs, that sounded
like a symphony.

In the night, I would hear the distinctive sound of crickets. …

so rare in Mumbai, in the midst of the same deafening silence.

The sole water tap near the compound, dark, silent nights,

the badam tree, the flowering Gulmohar tree, the scorching summer afternoons,

the rustle of the leaves, the fresh breeze blowing, the peepal tree, oxygenated air,

the purity in the atmosphere……

These images and sounds, during those days and nights transported me back in time,
to Deolali, the place where I spent all my childhood and teenage summer vacations.

I remember how every year, there would be a rush to book

our family one week slot, for stay at the Bhagnari Sanatorium
during summer vacations.
It was a holiday we looked forward to.
We would often know beforehand
who are going to be our neighbours for that one week.
Sometimes, we wouldn’t know
and that would be like a suspense.

The Sanatorium which was a beautiful bungalow, had accommodation for
five families at a time.
Each family was given one room.
There were one small room and three huge rooms
on the ground floor, and one room attached to the terrace at level 1.

I recall staying in all the five rooms at different points of time.

Our community members who had envisaged this idea, had done so brilliantly.
Every room had an independent kitchen, which was well equipped

with basic utensils and gas stove.
A functional kitchen, beds, mattresses,
mosquito nets, everything was provided.

There was a common tap outside, where washing of utensils, clothes was done.
There was a common verandah
and each room had one aaram kursi,
a chair and a round table.
This was the place where all the families,
met in the morning over tea,
and spent time in the late evenings
chatting while the children busy played.

The front courtyard had a fountain
and a place where we played all our games.

We did play a lot of games.
Chippi Langdi, Badminton, Saat pathar
and many more.
In the front courtyard under the shade of a banyan tree, we also played
Kaudi, a game played with a rubber ball and pebbles.
an indigenous version of
Ludo (something on those lines).

We would shop for and pack a lot of board games, while going to Deolali.

But, we spent more time outside, than indoors.
We would often be outside most of the day, in the front yard, or in the backyard
climbing trees and plucking Peru, kairi, chickoos, neembu, badam.
Or we would pluck leaves from the mehndi and neem plants.
The mehndi leaves, I recall, would be soaked in water,

ground on the stone by Mathura (the wife of the caretaker, Gangaram)
and we would apply it on each other’s palms.

She would also grind the neem leaves which we carried back home

as dry neem powder.

After a vacation at Deolali,
when we returned to Mumbai, others would know it,
just by observing the tan on our skin.

We had so much fun there, and had such beautiful vacations.
We have a lot to thank our community leaders, who had such a vision,

and had invested in the idea of this Sanatorium.

Gangaram was the caretaker, a gaonwaala, tall and robust, wearing the Gandhi topi

and a white kurta and dhoti.

He was in charge of all the rooms, maintenance of the rooms, looking after the

properties in each room and kitchen. In short, he was the all in all, taking care of everything.

When we would arrive at the Sanatorium, we would show him the letter given by the Panchayat, stating our days of visit, and the room that we were allotted.

Then he would take out the huge bunch of keys, and hand over the respective room keys, to what would be our home for the next seven days.

He had a rustic timbre, and I remember that every morning he would come to the verandah, and greet everyone, by saying RamRam.

He would spend some time with the families over a leisurely cup of tea, exchanging news and views, before returning to his daily caretaker’s chores.

He and his son Babu, who was a young lad then, were often seen on their bicycles,

running errands, fetching milk, newspaper and also visiting the marketplace at times, if

needed

Mathura, his wife was extremely warm and always welcomed us into her home.

She obliged us by roasting bhutta and potatoes on her shegri,

and always offered us her mouth watering chutneys and bhakri.

We loved playing with their kids, two daughters and a son. We knew that even if there would be no children as neighbours to spend time with at the Sanatorium, Mathura’s children would always be there for company.

There was also a Tamilian family which lived in a house behind the Sanatorium.

Aunty was a generous lady and would always share with us South Indian dishes,

while we shared with her family, our Sindhi delicacies.

I recall, while we all sat in the verandah, sipping our morning tea,

we would hear the tring tring of the bicycles and see hundreds of village folk on their Atlas cycles on the road outside, going to work.

These were regular employees of the RBI

Money printing press, located on Nashik Road,

The Sanatorium was located at Lam Road, and this road connected to the RBI printing press which was further down.

Lam Road was a narrow green stretch that connected Deolali to Nashik Road.

This is the road where I learnt to ride a bicycle.

There was a time when ghoda gaadi (tanga)

and cycles were the only mode of transport, in this little hill station.

There were very few cars and hardly any rickshaws.

No wonder that, when we reached Deolali, a fresh breeze and the scent of flowers welcomed us.

The entry to the compound of the Sanatorium had rows of red and dark pink Bougainvilleas on the fence.

We usually travelled on a Sunday,
and stayed till the following Sunday.
Train travel was fun with such a beautiful landscape.

It was a four hour journey from Bombay.

What we looked forward to was the Vada pao that was
sold at Igatpuri station and the tribal women selling berries (murga murgi) and local fruits in the train.
The most exciting part, once in Deolali was getting on a Tanga, the clip clop of galloping horses and the sound of horse carts while going towards the Sanatorium. This place had rows and rows of bungalows and Sanatoriums.

It was lush green with flowering trees, narrow roads and was really beautiful.

The first day would be usually spent settling down and we would go to the market in the evening, where an order for groceries would be placed at a fixed baniya shop.
Then we would shop for fruits and vegetables.
And later, dinner at Bharat Cold Drink House –
the place which had the best ice cream falooda and chole bhature.

On other days, all the families would jointly plan outings for the evening.
The other days we would visit the Cantonment area, Khandoba, Bagur ki Devi,
and there would be one visit to Muktidham, at Nashik Road.
Sometimes, if our parents were over enthusiastic, we would visit Trimbakeshwar in Nashik and also take a dip on the banks of the Godavari.

Our enthusiasm knew no bounds,
when we would all get dressed for our evening outings.
We would sit on the katta outside the gate, while the tangas came in one by one, and all of us would set out on a picnic.

When we were older, we would go out in the mornings to the market area, walking
and while returning eat gola sherbet or icecream/kulfi, often outside Nur Sanatorium.

Sometimes, we would hire bicycles from the market area on an hourly basis.

By the time, we would reach the Sanatorium, it would be time to go back to return the cycle, and then we would again walk back.

Can anyone think of a better way to spend childhood?
In the lap of nature, in a beautiful small place, with so much bonding and sharing
with neighbours.

This was my first exposure to the countryside.
In school, all students would have a native place to go to,

I would always say,
‘We don’t have a native place where we can go, but we go to Deolali.’
That sense of belonging to this place had set in.

Thank You to all Community seniors who thought about this place,

where we grew up with such fond memories.

I recall, once my cousin sister was going to join us in Deolali two days later.
To connect with her, to ask her plan, we had gone to the market area in the evening to make an STD call.
Any communication to Mumbai would be through the STD call, or sending messages to and fro, if anyone was coming from or going to Mumbai.
These were simpler times, there were no TV sets, only radios.

(TV had just been introduced in the early 70s/

Thankfully there were no TV sets in the Sanatorium

and we all carried our own transistors.)

And the nights would be dark and silent outside,
with the distinctive sound of crickets
and sound of Maali’ s dog barking.

A few years ago, we revisited Deolali,
and visited Lam Road.

We located the place by first searching for the Agiary

which was to the left of the Sanitorium.

We identified this place with the name, a marble slab
with Gandhi Terrace engraved in Gujarati.

(Somehow, the Bhagnari Sanitorium,

was known by this name, to the tangawallahs,

And later to the rickshawwallahs as well.)

Branches of an aging tree had covered the marble slab,

and much of the engraving on the slab was written off.

(Would really like to know the story behind this name,

And why the name was not changed)

It was a thick forest then and the structure was not there anymore.
but scant Bougainvillea flowers were there on the fence.

I gently touched the marble slab.
I was overcome with nostalgia.

The fountain and the courtyard where we played was there.

And the Banyan tree was there.
I was remembering Gangaram, Mathura and their children,

who would greet us on our arrival at the Sanatorium.

This was for me, a Ship of Theses Moment.

Same place, yet different. My consciousness was somewhat frozen in time, recollecting the images, sounds, stories of the past.

On the way to the market area,
Nur Sanatorium was still there, the green bungalows,

bringing back memories
of our childhood stopovers outside.

Bagur Ki Devi, Khandoba, Cantonment area …..just the same.

Muktidham held the same grandeur, but was much crowded.
And Bharat Cold Drink House
still served the best falooda and chole bhature.

Dal Pakwaan, Dahi wadas and all Sindhi delicacies.
At Bharat Cold Drink House, the food tasted yum,

but Bharat Cold Drink house seemed to have split into two.

In Deolali,
the tangas had been replaced with autorickshaws.
There was more noise, more shops, more chaos.

The small market place had expanded in all directions.
Deolali was no longer the sleepy, quiet, small place.
The employees of the printing press were clad in urban attire

and travelled on Lam Road on motorbikes.
So much had changed.
So much time had gone by.
Still, memories and moments continue to live on.

P.S.

It has been difficult to get old photographs, of the Sanatorium.

Those days, we lived our moments, hardly ever captured it.

Let’s all delve into our storehouse of memories, and post  

our stories of this beautiful, dreamy place.

And if we are lucky, we may find a few photographs, which will be invaluable memories.

Isar Master, Our Father – A tribute from his children

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It was early dawn (Prabhat Vela) on Rishi Panchami day, that our father Shri Isardas Motumal Kanar attained eternal bliss. Legend has it that the doors of heaven are open to souls that ascend the heavens on this auspicious day during the Ganapati festival. Shri Isardas Kanar was born in Karachi on 21st March 1915. The family consisted of parents, six sons (including Dada) and three sisters.

From his early days at the young age of 12 years, Dada (as we affectionately called him) had to carry the financial burdens of his family on his frail shoulders to keep the kitchen fires burning. My chachas Tahilram and Kishin had joined the freedom movement and were busy most of the time. Hence dada performed in the local band (playing the Clarinet), distributed newspapers and ran errands. His father Shri Motumal Kanar was an educated man and owned a printing press which was all but destroyed during the World War. Inspite of all the difficulties, he fought on and spent the day working on the typewriter he had managed to retrieve. He often typed legal documents for people and hence came to be known as the “petitioner”. Dada was the first Bhagnari to become a Civil Engineer. He passed out from NADIRSHAW EDULJEE DINSHAW CIVIL ENGINEERING COLLEGE, KARACHI. I have clicked a picture of his Degree which is featured with this article. This was in the year 1936. Dada then took up a job with Karachi Municipal Corporation. Among the many jobs that Dada did, the one that stood out was his work on the INDUS VALLEY PROJECT. Dada used to tell us how he used to walk for miles to reach the site and back home. His elder brother Tirathdas bought him a Bicycle worth Rs. 12/- but unfortunately it got stolen the very next day! It was a tough job. Another Project that Dada spoke about was the Sukkur Barrage Scheme where he encountered the most perilous trail of forests and mountains. Dada shared a host of memories about scorpions and snakes at the site. He would recall with horror how one of his helpers was carried away by a wild animal as he slept outside the tent!

Dada started teaching in Night School and it was under his guidance that the first batch of Bhagnari boys passed their Matric, most of them like the Jham brothers were all Dada’s friends. That was the reason that Dada came to be addressed as MASTER. After partition when the whole family came to Bombay, they spent a few days in the open ground in Sion where Sion Hospital stands today. Mummy told me how they were scared, as things got stolen. So, they used to make a barricade with their trunks and the ladies slept in the center. The men used to go house hunting every day. Finally, Dada found one room in Rehmat Manzil at Mahim. This building is at the signal where you take a turn from L. J. Road to go to Canossa School. There were three other families with them – Parsram (Ghia Uncle), his brother Chiman and Kishin Kataria. After settling the family Dada joined the Bombay Municipal Corporation. He was posted to Sholapur. Dada was worried about leaving his family behind in a new place, so he wanted to give up the job.

After a year or so, Mr. Naraindas Mehta asked Dada “why don’t you start working on your own?” But Dada said he didn’t know anyone here, who would give him work? Mr. Naraindas Mehta offered Dada his first job at MEHTA MANSION at Sitladevi. Every time I pass by this building, I feel proud to say that after nearly 65 years the building still stands solid and strong. Then followed Sweet Home, in which Mehta family occupied the first floor, then Bhaveshwar Nivas, in which we shifted to a 2 room flat and many other buildings in Mogul Lane. Dada had a drawing board at home, and I remember him working till late night, preparing drawings. He was all in one – the Draughtsman, the Architect, the Supervisor. He then decided to rent an office in Mohatta Market for Rs. 50/- a month. As this sum was too much for Dada, he asked Mr. Kishin Kataria to share the office with him. Dada designed many buildings prominent among them were Vimla Mahal at Pedder road. I must mention here that students who were studying Architecture were brought to this building to show them how it was constructed on a Hill in 3 levels. Then there is Ajoomal Mansion, Delstar, Deluxe Apartments at Altamount road for Mr. Shankar B. C. (film distributor), Sukhmani at J. B. Petit Road (Dada’s favourite). His most significant project was the Kataria Colony at Shivaji Park, the details of which we have mentioned later.

My brother Sunder joined Dada after completing his B. E. Civil Engineering. Chandu Chhada also joined Dada and during that period they designed several buildings in Bandra and Juhu. Sunder used to tell me that those days they had so much work that they used to get tired by the end of the day. We also specialized in designing Industrial buildings. An entire area in Saki Naka has been developed by I. M. KANAR & CO., including a Studio for Manoj Kumar. It was a tribute to his excellence that some of these buildings found a place in the finest architectural magazines like Japan Architect and Indian Builder.

Our father was an ideal family man as only a person belonging to the Old Guard could be. He stood by his mother, brothers and sister and provided unflinching support without ever mentioning it. The metaphysical poet John Donne has used a beautiful metaphor to describe his relationship with his wife. He says they were like a pair of compasses – she, the steady and dependable arm that stood fixed at the center and he, the moving arm that did not waver when completing a perfect circle, only because of the fixed center. Our parents’ long partnership of 64 years cannot be described in a better way. Mummy always stood by Dada through all the vagaries of life, managing the home finances, children’s education and all the nitty gritty of everyday existence with perfection and resolution. As for his children, Dada had a unique equation with each one of them. Sunder his first born, was naturally dear to him. Where his duty to his parents was concerned, Sunder was the perfect son. In the autumn of his life there was a kind of role reversal. Dada became a child so as to say and Sunder took over the family reins. Ramoon remembers him for the long conversations they had each time he came home from College in Baroda, from Dubai and Kuwait. Shaku was his wise and most efficient child. Dada was always proud of Bharati’s academic achievements and discussed almost anything under the sun with her. As for me after Graduation I did my Secretarial course from Davar’s Institute and joined Dada’s office. As for my Bhabis – Anuradha, he found her to be dignified, well mannered, efficient and a perfect mother to her children, Sushma, who came to our family late in the day as a “Balika-badhu” was the apple of his eye. He found her, together with Rachna, to be the most intelligent of his children. He was all praise for her calligraphy. As for my parents’ bond with their daughters in law, a striking incident comes to our mind. Whilst we waited for Ramoon and Sushma to arrive from Dubai for the last rites of Dada, our mother convinced Anuradha to go to the colony hall and perform her duties towards the annual Ganesh festival as Shri Naraindas Talreja had put her in complete charge of the occasion. My Bhabi, with a heavy heart, obeyed and performed the Aarti, as she felt that Dada too would have wanted her to do so. Each of his grandchildren remember the time spent with him. Babloo always remembers Dada standing in the balcony whenever he came home on a visit from USA. He says that even now he looks up at the balcony and knows that someone is there watching and blessing him. All of them remember the bonding with Dada during Sunday lunches of mutton, khatti dal, rice and chapattis which were made by their Naani/Daadi. Dada had a special bond with his sons -in- laws. His happiness on seeing them at innumerable weekend gatherings at our home was to be seen to be believed! The feeling was mutual between him and Chandu and Sunder. Its because the feeling of love and respect was equal on both sides. I had never ever seen Dada speak about anything personal with both of them. All the more reason why they looked up to him with love and admiration!

Topmost among the memories we have of Dada is the one where he was elected twice as the President (Mukhi Saheb) of our Bhagnari Community. He was President of the community from 1980 to 1992. During his tenure we saw a side of Dad’s character that we had not seen before. He always stood up for his principles and upheld the beliefs that were morally right even if he stood alone for them. Very often his beliefs carried the day!! Among the many reforms that he encouraged, was one which deserves special mention. With an initiative of the young Prakash Gehani, a function was organised to conduct mass thread ceremonies in Vanita Samaj Hall, so that community members could cut out wasteful expenditure and those who could not afford to spend more were able to participate in this joyous occasion.

Finally, last but not the least. Dada had a creative side to him, which not many know of. Dada used to play the harmonium with his nimble artistic fingers. I have inherited this talent from him. It was from him that we learnt what taal and raag meant, what Thumri, Dadra, etc. meant. We still recall the beautiful environment at home when almost every night the lights were dimmed, and we listened to classical Indian music. Such were the wonderful years that we spent with our beloved Dada.

Kataria Colony

When We Bhagnaris came to India as refugees most of us settled in Bombay. But we were as scattered as the leaves of a tree. Shri Takandas Kataria, our beloved President ‘had a dream’ – to unite our people once again into a community that would face the difficulties of resettlement and all life’s experiences in a place which was like the “Old Bhagnari Para” that we had left behind in Karachi. Shri T. H. Kataria who lived with his family in Mahalaxmi shared his vision of a united community with Shri Isardas Kanar, and thus was born the Kataria Nivas and the Kataria Colony at Shivaji Park. Kataria Nivas and A building were constructed first. Then Shri Kataria purchased the adjoining plot also. This plot had small homes, which were vacated by the people residing there, with the help of Shri Harkishindas Gehani, by way of compensation.

Building E was constructed first as some families like Shri Vishindas Mehta and his brother had lost their homes due to the collapse of their building in Mahim. Hence the Mehtas, our grandmother and Ram Maharaj were the first occupants in this building. Buildings B, C, D, F, G and H were constructed immediately thereafter.

Lots were drawn for all the buyers, but since Dada refused to take his fees from Panchayat, Shri Kataria gave him the liberty to choose his flat. Dada chose D-56, and that is where we live today. I must mention here that Dada never ever took fees for any of the buildings, such as Dharamshala, which he designed for Mr. Khubchand in Hardwar or a temple or a Gurudwara like Sachkhand Darbar in Sion, Sai Jairamdas Samadhi Mandir in Chembur or even the Yoga Institute at Santacruz. Work at the Yoga Institute still goes on. Sunder helped them install a lift recently. When the President of India, had come to the Institute, they felicitated Sunder, Dr. Jaidev told them that” Sunder has not charged us a penny, not even towards corruption charges!” You can imagine the laughter that followed!!

So, our little TOWNSHIP was complete – we have a Temple, a Ration Shop and above all our precious Hall. Our Hall which has the significance of a temple, years of religious activity, havans, bhajans, pravachans by saints, has acquired an aura of a temple. We Bhagnaris revere the place and never enter the Hall with slippers/shoes and no non-veg food is ever served on its sacred premises. Hence we consider Kataria Colony a symbol of our oneness and moral strength.  To the Kanar family, Kataria Colony shall always remind us of Dada’s tribute to our community.

Thanks to our elders Shri T. H. Kataria, Shri Isardas Kanar, Shri Harkishindas Gehani and many other elders that Shri Kataria’s dream was realized. Today we can proudly say – “WE BHAGNARIS, LONG LIVE BHAGNARIS”!

Our Ancestors Laugh and Smoke Hookah, Still (Part I)

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I’ve been hating maps as of lately. So flat, so simplistic, so inaccurate. As if space has only one dimension. And then there’s topographical maps—even more pretentious in their underlying assumption that only the space above ground matters even though what lies below ground is literally the definition of matter.

But maps don’t make themselves. In fact, a seasoned geographer recently introduced me to the term “quadripoint”—a geographical concept that speaks to where four borders converge. Geographers get off on this idea, but then again, geographers get off on maps. Maps that ignore the magic of tectonic plates and all the erupting power they hold tightly in their fists—thriving under the most pressurized ruptures. Maps that ignore people.

I wonder if tectonic plates have quadripoints and if so, I wonder what lies below those points. They must hold overlapping memories constantly traversing across contested spaces and interweaving within each other. All this was matter that once mattered to people who maybe mattered.

I get excited when I think of the earth’s ability to consume us, one seismic bite at a time—quaking continents and effervescing oceans in the process. The last time I pushed a wave, she pushed me back, splashing salt water in my face. It was in that moment that I realized although I come from oceans, I also come from sweeter waters. Although I come from the Arabian sea, I also come from the River Nári.

I wonder what species of water was used to extinguish the fires that burned us. I wonder if the water poured onto the fires that encased us into the ground was saline, or sweet or perhaps even spicy. Maybe the water lazily drizzled itself while applauding our stories as they nestled their way back into their original footprint. Maybe the drizzle wasn’t lazy but simply had a rebellious tang that made it resist its own wetness. Maybe we spritzed the fires with Limca or Rooh Afza or Chhaas. But maybe the fire burned anyway and the land was replaced with a map.

You see, this is why I feel uncomfortable, distressed, overworked when looking at maps. Because they have me planting my feet into graves, above temples, on top of beings who were once celebrating themselves, dancing in their flesh. Some mornings I wake up in open wounds before I even blink.

“You heal really well,” a surgeon smilingly told me last year. Seventy one years prior to this wound, South Asia’s soul was wounded by Partition. The subcontinent rumbled and tumbled and roared and tore. It shook and squealed and shattered and bled while a white man drew a line with a pen that belonged to him. On a map that belonged to him. On a map depicting lands that did not belong to him. The ink was his. The blood was ours. And then appeared a border dividing Pakistan and India.

There’s at least one story beneath every border. There’s at least two stories inside every person. Our skin tries to contain us, but is porous. We are porous. Our senses act like quick sand and absorb the environment around us as we listen, taste, touch, see and smell. As we indulge ourselves sensorially and enjoy our luxurious privilege of breath.

I suck at math, but I would mathematically argue that hybridizing a hybrid would make a quadripoint which means at least two spatial intersections lie between you and me. When cyclical temporality is added to this equation, these dimensions intersect and multiply exponentially.

So why do geographers limit themselves to quadripoints? Why do geographers not talk about decipoints, centipoints, and millipoints? These quadripoint-lovers must be arid. They must be dry. They must be boring and shriveled to think this way. Because people dripping—in skin the color of mine and darker—invented infinity, a space so vast that no map makers or map breakers could ever steal and shatter.

The problem is map-obsessed-people see us as maps. They see us as pieces of cut down, dried and bleached tree bark lathered in their ink. They see us as split that they can split more. They want us to fight. They force parts of us to die while making the rest of us live. Like objects in a game.

Luckily, in the way bodies have muscle memory and phantom limbs, I hypothesize this world is adorned with phantom lands. We would need to ask the waters to find out because after all, hurricanes even move islands. The waters are the strong ones because they remind old maps that they are obsolete. The waters are the smart ones because they remind old maps that they are obsolete.

To end, I grew from the Juniper tree in the olden days. But today, I am turmeric. I am antiseptic. I stain. I am a root who has been pounded and powdered. I was not born 29 years ago, but rather 29,000 years ago. I rebirth as I live. I become many. My themness, a plurality of lovers, of spaces, of geographies, of time zones, of beings, of rivers, of oceans, of altitudes. Of all and of nothing. There’s a version of me in me whose nostalgia for the present consists of reminiscing of monkeys swinging in trees while moving mountains.

Bhagnari Customs and Practices

Have you ever wondered why different practices are followed by community members of different surnames (nukh), eg in Jhams a son’s Jhand is done 2.5 years after he is born. Gehi families do it on the second Dussehra. Nastas do it without informing anyone – luka kaney. The rest of the community does it on the first or the second Dussehra. In Nastas actually no one from the family takes the son for Jhand. They give him to an outsider – earlier this lady used to be someone called Lali. Upon return from Jhand, symbolic stones were pelted on her to pacify the crying child. A month before the regular Jhand, Mehtas do a symbolic Jhand for Jhulelal near sea, where they put akhaa and distribute prasad. It is done on a Chander day. Wadhares also do jhand on a Chander near the sea but in the 13th month. Sadanis do the jhand for on 1st or 2nd Ramnavmi.

Besides Jhand, there are many more practices which not only vary but are also specific to a nukh. In most cases, we don’t know the reason why these practices are followed or vary within the community. Perhaps our elders can enlighten us.

Here is a collection of some practices and the related tales, narrated by the elder members of the community. Some of the unique practices may be missing from this article. Please feel free to narrate them or correct the ones mentioned in this article.

Well, the most bizzare one is the reason why Talrejas don’t cook kadu at home. Legend has it that once a beggar approached a Talreja lady during yatra and asked for something to eat. She had her child in the lap, who was covered with a cloth. To ward off the beggar she told him that she did not have anything. So, the beggar asked her ‘what is in your lap?’. The lady replied that she had kadu in her lap. Later she regretted her response and from that day onwards, Talrejas don’t cook kadu at home.

Jhams and Nastas don’t keep child’s jhula (cradle) at home. They and Makkars, if they wish to keep one, then it should be given by some other family. Strangely Jhams consider it inauspicious.

Nastas don’t light deeyas during Diwali. Firecrackers are burnt only if they are given by another family. Laxmi puja is also not done at home, not even rangoli. It seems that long time ago, there was a fire in someone’s house, which led to this practice. Elders say that some have tried to challenge this practice, but it has again resulted in fire. So, they keep away from it. Gehis don’t bring hatris home unless they are given by naani.

Mehta’s and several other nukhs observe the practice of making Saee Bhajji during Diwali. The puja is done after dinner، where the family enjoys delicious Khirni.

When a sikeeladha son is born (after a few daughters), Gehis don’t wear new cloths on him for 9 months. Till then he wears only clothes worn by others. In Jhams and many other nukhs for a newborn boy “Chola” or 1st set of clothes is worn on 40th day and for a girl it is worn on 21st day. Thereafter “perey pavaaee” is done in maternal home of the mother with the new born baby.

Jhams don’t buy or sell any assets or have weddings or celebrations during Shravan and Navratras.

A strange practice is observed by Nastas during Thadri. On the previous day after cooking food they go and take bath in someone else’s house. Recently some of them have started bathing in their own house, but without oil and soap.  Kamras don’t take the thada out of their house. If they need to share it with relatives and friends, then they are called home and fed.

During the collection of these practices, a story came up as to why thada food is eaten on Thadri. In Karachi, people used to visit Durga Maata’s temple to offer their prayers and seek blessings. As the temple was half a day’s travel distance from Karachi and no eateries were available on the route, they used to cook their own food and take it along with them. This is how the custom of eating thada food started on the day we worship Durga Maata. With advances in transport although there is no need to cook a day in advance to visit Maata’s temple, the custom persists. Whatever the reason may be, we get to enjoy the yummy food that is cooked for thada.

On Holka day Gehis do not make atta pedas, which are tied with thread and cooked on the cow dung cakes. They only go near the burning pyre to pray, seek blessings and take the prasad. Lalit Jham has narrated an interesting tale about his family – after Holka, his Daddy and Ram chacha used to pour whiskey on the pyre as an offering and later sit there to drink and dine together. It was bonding time. His elder chachi Lachhmi used to have the honour of seeking blessings for everybody, saying muraad poori theevey and later go around in circle and sing ”Puniyaan puniyaan puniyaan, mediyaan sabhaee muraadaan puniyaan…..” Oh boy! Those were the good old days.🙂

Chhodas make gur lolas (they call it boosree) at weddings, one to feed their ancestors and one is distributed as prasad. The story behind this practice is that there was a phase when a close relative would die during the weddings. So, to please their ancestors they offer them sweet lola.

Another practise followed by Chhodas takes place when a son is born in the family. They offer a deg full of sauted onions. This should remain covered till it is immersed in sea. This is their way of thanking the almighty that son has been born to carry forward the vansh. Dudejas put Akkha in the sea when a child is born in a family. A poor widow is made to put the same in the sea

In Mehtas there still the tradition of making chaura chawal on the marriage day when whole family is invited for lunch.

During Ganesh sthapna ceremony most of the community makes Khatti Dal Chawal and Mohan Thaal, but Gehis prefer Gulab Jammun and Malpuras instead of the Mohan Thaal.

As Mehta believe in Jhulelal, they say that making Chaura Chana, Moong Palak and Methi on Fridays brings good luck to the family.

Dudejas don’t buy diamonds from their own money. Someone else has to pay for the purchase and money is reimbursed back to the person.

Many Mehtas don’t make taari and wadi batata during weddings, while all other nukhs cook these delicacies. Many don’t take bath in their own house after cooking taari and wadi batata.

There are several superstitious surrounding the humble jhaaru and kachra. Many don’t use jhaadu after sunset. Mehtas collect kachra on all 3 days of Diwali and then throw it as they feel it brings good luck and bharkat in their house. Talrejas don’t do jhaadu on the day anyone is travelling.

Mehtas don’t have two family weddings on the same day.

The rains remind me that many observe the practice of bathing the child with some rain water, before he/she is taken out for the first time in rainy season. We hope someone can tell us more about this rasm. Perhaps it is done to improve the immunity against rain water.

Over generations some of these practices have been discontinued, though some are still followed. One way of continuing to interact with our elders would be to inquire about these practices. You will find that they love to talk about them. Keep them engaged during these times.🙏

PS: Several insights have provided by Prakash Gehani in the comment box. Please read these also.

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Koki – The Perfect accompaniment to your Chai/Coffee

They say that a bottle of wine gets better with age, this dish gets better with each spoon of ghee added to it. The more ghee and love that is added to this dish, the more it’s unique personality comes out.

Koki with its accompaniments

Koki – a very common breakfast dish in our community, is not only common for it’s great taste, but also for it’s texture. 

What defines a perfectly cooked Koki is it’s unique texture – crispy on the outside and soft and chewy on the inside with it’s unmistakable criss cross diamond pattern on the surface that takes in all the love and ghee.

Dahi/Koki or Koki/Papud & chaan is a staple breakfast for most Bhagnaris. Our elders almost felt like it could solve all the worlds problems – ‘Aalaee sani thi gaee hain.. Koki kha gheu nal.. sab suta these’

On that note, can I let you in on a secret, don’t get fooled by this amazing bread’s healthy ingredients, because the ‘adding of ghee’ starts from when you add all the ingredients to the flour and mix it all till you have a crumbly texture. If you add less, you will hear your grandmother screaming from the other end saying ” moree (ghee in bhagnari) wadare gatesi, tah burkuri thesi’

The Criss Cross pattern helps soak in the ghee

So if you wish to attempt this ohh so delicious breakfast delicacy, I shall only pray that go into this cook with the intent of love and hope that “tussan de hath te jaas aave”

#bhagnarikitchen

Ingredients

2 cups whole wheat flour (gehun ka atta)
1/2 cup chopped onions
2 tbsp chopped coriander (dhania)
1 tbsp finely chopped green chillies
1 tsp cumin seeds (jeera)
1 tsp pomegranate (anardana) powder or dried
A lot of – melted ghee
salt to taste

Method

  1. To make koki, combine all the ingredients in a deep bowl. Add a generous amount of ghee and rub all the ingredients together till it forms a crumble. Add just enough water and knead into a stiff dough.
  1. Divide the dough into 6 equal portions and roll out each portion into 175 mm, (7″) diameter circle using a little whole wheat flour for rolling.
  2. Make criss cross diamonds on the surface of the koki
  3. Heat a non-stick tava (griddle), grease it with ghee and cook each circle, on a slow flame, using ghee, till it turns golden brown in colour and crisp from both the sides.
  4. Serve the sindhi koki hot.

Kali Mirch Ki Koki

Ingredients

2 cup wheat flour

1 tbsp ghee or clarified butter

1 tsp black pepper crushed

Salt as per taste

Water for kneading dough

Instructions

  1. In a bowl add all the above ingredients and follow the same process as per the above

My father, a Hiro: by Prakash Bhagnari

Shri Hiranand Sugnomal Bhagnari (Sadani).

Hero of Kuwait.

Introduction:

By Prakash Harkishindas Gehani

Shree Hiranand S Sadani was first Bhagnari to migrate to Kuwait, it was in 1955 that he opted Kuwait as his Karma Bhumi. .

In 1961 Late Shri Tirathdas Kanar saw an ad in Times of India for vacancy in Kuwait for an engineering graduate, contact with Hero did the miracle and in 1961 Shri Arjun T Kanar was in Kuwait, after Arjun settled, his three brothers also migrated to Kuwait.

Hero was solely responsible for settling almost 25/30 Bhagnari families in Kuwait.

The Bhagnari Kuwaiti families still hold hero in very high esteem, caring, loving and always available for any issue, he was born to comfort his people, truly a loknayak.

Bhagnaris of Kuwait were a big united family, all these were like a joint team of people, always around each other including the children besides them. I am told all the Bhagnaries in Kuwait celebrated Diwali by going to each and every house to perform Puja and later rejoice the festivity and get together in a big gang. Thursday became another bonding day, home parties were enjoyed in smaller groups and occasionally with full Jing bang. Isolation from outings made families connected and fond of each other. They were so much at home with each other that all of Kuwaitis communicated only in Bhagnari, and I bet that till today no one can beat a Kuwaiti in our mother tongue.

It was 2nd August of 1990 that a war tore the country and all were scattered like beads from a beautiful necklace. Many opted for Dubai and elders migrated back to India – the stories shall go on for ages of happiness and togetherness and the role of The Hero shall always be remembered.


Biography of Shri Hiranand Sugnomal Bhagnari (Sadani) by his son Prakash Bhagnari

Shri Hiranand was born in Karachi, now Pakistan, and was married in 1947 at the time of partition. His personality was engrossed in his name, viz: HIRA, HE WAS A REAL GEM. He had a very loving personality and always extended a helping hand to others. Following the bitter rivalries amongst Hindus and Muslims post-independence, he also suffered the evils of partition and decided to migrate to Bombay to rebuild a new life. Whilst in Bombay, one of Hiranand’s friends was offered a job in Kuwait, but his mother did not allow him to go to a foreign country, so he asked Hira if he would take the offer in his place. He accepted this challenge as a life changing opportunity and migrated to Kuwait where he worked extremely hard to sustain his family, making a lot of personal sacrifices. After years of hard struggle, he established his foothold in Kuwait and helped not only his brothers and sisters settle there but in addition helped numerous other Bhagnaris and non-Bhagnaris earn a decent living with lucrative jobs in Kuwait. He derived pleasure seeing others rise in their careers and become prosperous.

He was a very kind and fun loving person and a very talented singer. He would sing in such a soulful and melodious voice, that people would come down from their houses and stand in the staircase to listen to him sing devotional songs. He had a tremendous sense of humour and would always make everyone laugh. He was always a Giver and was ever ready to reach out to people without discriminating. He was also a very involved father, father-in-law and grandfather which made the children very dependent on him. In short He was our Guru. He loved his children, brothers and sisters a lot and was a devoted husband. Later in life, he took care of his ailing wife for more than 25 years, despite his own struggles with multiple knee and hip surgeries. He took these sufferings as divine blessings and continued unabated with his daily routine of material and spiritual work. He was a devoted father and wanted both his sons to have the best of education, which he himself was not fortunate enough to achieve. Through his efforts and guidance, both his sons were sent abroad who graduated with honours from Stanford University, USA and Cardiff University, UK respectively. He was a very spiritual and pious person, attending all religious functions and even to his last day kept reminiscing of how he enjoyed going to all the temples and satsangs every day. He was a great soul full of compassion that touched everyone’s heart instantly. He was a very humble and modest person despite his multifarious achievements in life…

In Kuwait, he played a pivotal role in getting his boss Kutaiyba Alghanim actively involved in bringing Swami Chinmayananada’s mission to Kuwait, a staunch Muslim country where other religions were not allowed to practice their faith freely. The Chinmaya Mission in Kuwait is on solid footing today not seen in other Gulf countries. Kutaiyba Alghanim even donated Rs. One lakh towards the construction of the dome (Shiv Ling) at the Chinmaya Mission temple in Powaii Mumbai…(In 1972 One Lakh was a big amount)
Additionally, he helped the Bhagnari welfare society and other non Bhagnari organizations in many ways and also contributed money to be awarded on yearly basis for deserving candidates in pursuit of higher education…
He has certainly left a deep void in all our lives. We really miss him and pray that, he may rest eternally in Heavenly bliss.


I wish such stories Never End.

BY Prakash Harkishindas Gehani

Have you ever wondered how on the top of steep mountains trees grow?

The birds pick up seeds from the plains to feed their new-borns, they hold these seeds in their beak and while flying- some seeds fall away from their beaks to germinate on top of hills, these are very pure functions which help in restoring many balances.

There are wonders the God creates, they react inadvertently, without any motto or any aim or selfishness – giving the Society at large the positive results for generations.

Late Shri Hiranand S Bhagnari (Sadani) fits in this rare and far and in between class of blessed humans. His actions has changed the fortunes of many families forever like the trees which shall be productive forever.

Opening & Closing remarks by

Prakash Harkishindas Gehani

Unlimited Knowledge by Deepa (Laji) Bhagnari

COVID 19 the most dreaded words of our lifetime…yes, there have been pandemics before this but most of us have neither witnessed them nor even maybe heard of them till now when comparisons are made between then and now. I am not someone who delves deep into politics. I know a few of my friends who know the A to Z of politics like Asha Poplay and Lata Gehani.😀. Unfortunately, I am a Piscean and I love to live in my little make-believe world. So, politics is just not my cup of tea. I randomly read the headlines and that is sufficient for my knowledge. But since Covid has invaded our lives, every morning I attack the newspaper with a vengeance to see some breakthrough coming up in our nightmarish lives. But alas, that is not yet happening.
 
Since the Covid era has started, I have started reading the virus-related news and my eyes first go to the number of global cases, then the alarmingly rising cases in India and then finally the UAE scenario.  It is sad for us Mumbaites to read about the rising cases there and we fear for our near and dear ones and regularly call them to know that they are safe. Fortunately, UAE government has effectively controlled the situation here and we are a little free to move around. Then the newspapers declared yesterday that around 43% of the Indian population is facing depression, which is such a sad thing as the economy has taken a beating. people are facing starvation and business shut-downs. All this is creating chaos in so many lives – a very sorry state of affairs.

Covid has infected the global tourism industry – the most thriving industry I would say. All the countries are facing economic downfall, as tourism contributes to a large percent of their revenue. Besides that, there is a forlorn look everywhere, as tourism creates a buzz in all the cities – makes everything come to life. Now everywhere there is an eerie silence, no bright lights, no parades and no clubs bustling with dance, music and laughter. It is said that passenger traffic will return to pre-Covid levels only in 2024. Now that is really far away, I would say. Hope all these predictions prove to be wrong and we see better times soon – miraculously.

I feel I have gathered enough knowledge of the pandemic and decide that I should stop reading the papers  the next day but the very  next morning my eyes again eagerly scan the papers to see if there is any new development in the progress of the vaccine which will bring back our world to normalcy. No one cares which country wins the race in making the first safe and effective vaccine as long as it is successful and in this fortunately all the countries are united. So, let us keep our fingers crossed and pray for that path breaking day. OMG!! the amount of knowledge I have amassed about this virus I think I could write a book.😂. Which of course no one would bother to read as the very word Covid would make people run to another planet.

Since this new lockdown time in our lives, we all wondered how we would stay at home with nothing to do and being social animals, how would we would cope with the situation. But now more than 4 months have passed and we have all settled into a routine. In fact I think all have become too busy with their household chores and if some have time on their hands then they have honed their talents in cooking, baking, etc.

The greatest quandary I face is, setting priorities. Suddenly now we have satsangs on Zoom. Then meditation on Zoom and other channels, live cookery learning, musical programmes on Facebook, Instagram, etc. Yoga too is online now. Then, we have talk shows and discourses by acknowledged gurus like Gaurdas, Sadguruji., Daaji of Heartfulness, Prof Prema Pandurang of Kshetropasna, Deepak Chopra, Luke Coutinho and many others. All good so far, as these keeps us both physically and mentally alert and at peace in these chaotic times, but sometimes we wonder whether we should do meditation or learn a good dish that we would like to cook or hear a discourse by one of the gurus or just relax and listen to some lovely forgotten melodies. Because unfortunately sometimes there is a clash of timings and then of course my husband gets restless sitting at home all day and would like to go for a drive at around the same time – though we just drive aimlessly to the same Meena Bazar and Karama lanes every day and in fact I think I could easily get a job as an inspecting officer as I could rattle off all the names of the eating joints and jewellery shops and textile shops which have unfortunately shut down and all the big hotels which are in total darkness hoping to reopen once business is back to normal. So, you see I have to prioritise and I am sure all must be facing this dilemma and yet we say we are bored though actually we have so much to do. It is because we are all social animals and miss the human contact. Sometimes I feel I am in an Exam Hall and I am given a multiple-choice question and I have to choose only one. I think I found that easier than here –  choosing what one thing I would like to do ..😀

But all this has made us more God loving (people say God fearing but why fear the Lord) more appreciative of our families, our friends and our household helpers. This is God’s way of teaching us new lessons in life, which hopefully we should always remember.

So, I think this Pandemic has really given me unlimited knowledge, but please God I think this much is sufficient for me. I have learnt sufficient about this Covid subject – now let us proceed to the next new chapter in our life called NORMAL LIFE.

TanMan Treats by Mansha Mehta

– A Sweet Gift Straight From The Heart

Mansha Mehta, a vibrant and tenacious Bhagnari residing in Dubai worked in the corporate sector for nearly fifteen years. During a difficult phase, she lost her job. While one’s heart can sink at the prospect of losing a job, Mansha looked at this obstacle with a positive attitude and the result was the founding of her own home baking business – TanMan Treats.

Since childhood, Mansha trailed her mom and dad to the kitchen and through a course of various lessons, instructions and experiments, it gradually sunk in her that she has a hidden talent for cooking. Over the years, she experimented with both sweet and savory dishes, and subconsciously gravitated towards the sweeter side of her taste buds. It all started with selling the Bhagnari favorite ‘‘Nankhatais’’ , and accelerated to specialty Indian fusion cakes, homemade cookies, mouth-melting mithais and crispy nut brittles.

How was TanMan Treats conceived? The idea to start her own home baking business came into being over a weekend, when she was browsing through a magazine and came across an ad about a home-based chef, Vandana Jain, who offered culinary courses. She decided to get in touch with her and enrolled in the classes through which she learnt to make a wide variety of dishes which she offered to people for trial. After receiving excellent feedback, she decided to launch her own brand and TanMan Treats was born.

Customization is the motto of TanMan Treats. Over the past 2 years, people have tried and tested a wide variety of sweets from TanMan Treats. Through several events and networking opportunities, customers have developed a level of trust towards TanMan’s products which are made from high-quality ingredients and adhere to rigid safety standards. All this has helped TanMan Treats achieve fame among home bakers in Dubai.

One of Mansha’s main challenges was the icing of cakes. Initially, she made only sponge cakes which didn’t require icing. After several failed attempts, investing time in watching videos and learning different techniques of icing and practicing them, she overcame her difficulties. Having become confident through practice, she has now iced over 150 cakes.

In addition, her love for Indian sweets inspired her to incorporate a fusion element in her dishes. Her signature cake – ‘The Rasbhari Rasmalai Cake’ integrates several Indian flavors such as saffron, rose petals, cardamom and dry fruits. Similarly, she has infused flavors of paan in chocolates – another one of her customers’ favorites. This makes her brand different since most of her dishes include hints of Indian sweets as opposed to regular chocolate and fruit cakes. In addition, her daughter’s lactose-intolerance pushed her to learn vegan desserts. As a mother and an entrepreneur, this makes her feel accomplished in both aspects of her life.

Mansha has inspiring words for our Bhagnari youth – ‘Follow your passion. Although you may require several attempts to be good at something, be patient and stay motivated. In my opinion, this is the key to success in anything you want to achieve in life.’

Take a look at this video for the easiest rceipe of Tiramisu cups that you can make for your family and friends. Click on the link to view the video>>>>>>https://drive.google.com/file/d/1k0j08FqyzhHoFQ0xQ38O1-T0fekx3i8O/view

TanMan Treats by Mansha Mehta

Contact number: +971 50 226 5268, Instagram: @tanmantreats

Recollections from my father Issardas Vishindas Popley’s life and times

Yes, my father was a Popley with ‘e’, though I became Poplay with ‘a’, due to mistake in my school leaving certificate, which I realised only when I got my passport in 1972.

There has been a welcome revival of our Bhagnari boli and I feel it has come at the right time. The emphasis so far has been to assimilate all Bhagnaris spread across the globe, under one roof – a huge roof enabled by the IT advancements – Facebook, Whatsapp groups, Bhagnari Dictionary, Excel database, re-launched registrations, our website, email groups and several new and forthcoming initiatives that are in pipeline to get all Bhagnaris under one umbrella. And to top it, all this is being led by a group of youngsters, who are proud to contribute their time.

Our elders though had tended to be associated with Sindhi community, right from the time they came to Karachi. They merged themselves with the group named Old Town, mainly comprising of Bhagnari, Nasarpuri, Chapru, Serai, Saata, Khatri and Wawa. The children studied in Sindhi medium schools and that too in Arabic script. My father carried this attachment with him to the extent that even in 1958 when I was to be admitted to a school and in 1964 when my sister Neena was to start schooling, we were admitted to Sindhi schools with Arabic script. This, at a time when majority of my friends went to English medium schools. In the end though I do not find myself anywhere behind those who studied in English medium. A lesson that my father taught me to strengthen my English, was one that he had received from Late Shri Hiranand Gehi. He would pick up the first page of the daily English newspaper, underline all those words, whose meaning he did not know, get their meaning from dictionary, come back to the newspaper and re-read these sentences. This way he ensured that the meaning of the word was never lost on him. This exercise held me in good stead during my school days.

My father used to make it a point to attend the annual Sindhi Samelans, which were held all over India. Over the years, differences started simmering between the supporters of Arabic script and Devnagri script. By this time, several Sindhi schools had introduced Devnagri script divisions too. Being the editor of Hindustan Sindhi Daily, my father, supported Arabic script. But the rift had deepened and it finally led to fights at one of the samelan, leading to a split between the two rival groups. It also led to the supporters of Devnagri script, starting their own newspaper, which was named Sindhudhara. During this period prominent Sindhi writers in and around Mahim and Mumbai too started taking a stand on this matter, though I don’t recall which writer supported which script. I do, however, remember some of the writers with whom my father had close association – Moti Prakash, Sundri Uttamchandani, A J Uttam, Popti Hiranandani, Kirat Babani, Mohan Gehani, to name a few.

As Sindhi philanthropists had opened colleges in Mumbai, which continue to function till today, they started offering seats under Sindhi quota. Even now, Panchayat issues certificates to Bhagnari students who wish to apply for seats under Sindhi quota in these colleges.

In conclusion on this subject, before I take a further trip down the memory lane, it must be said that the current push to own up Bhagnari boli, must continue. What I have said above, was ‘then’ and our ‘past’.

My father had maintained and adopted socialist ideas all through his studies and life. He was a staunch supporter of Karl Max’s theory of economics and used to openly support it even in the college lectures. It’s a wonder how during British rule, the students would stage walk-out whenever the professor propagated capitalist theories. During the second world war, when the Britishers banned all news articles from abroad, a group which included my father, would distribute leaflets covering news from across the borders. For this they were punished several times. I was recently told by our Mukhi Shri Lachmandas Gehi that in Karachi my father was called Daily Gazette Popley due to his association with this paper. He also used to teach English and Maths to Bhagnari students during night, free of charge.

For his LLB studies he came down to Bombay, though he did not complete it due to the partition of the country. The college where he studied used to arrange occasional visits to the court, so that the students could get first-hand knowledge of the proceedings. My father used to cite the cases fought by Mohd Ali Jinnah, who was considered a prominent lawyer in Bombay. His reputation was that he would study the case so well that he would be in a position to sum-up the case with all its pros and cons in his first briefing and leave no quarters for the opposition lawyer.

His socialist ideology brought him close to personalities like A K Hangal, Balraj Sahni, S A Dange. According to him, even Raj Kapoor was a part of this group until he became a successful film-maker. RK’s socialist ideas are clearly evident in most of the movies made by him. My father possessed several trunk-full of books written by and on Karl Marx, Lenin, Stalin, etc. He was warned to get rid of them, as the government imposed a clamp-down on such material during the war with China in 1962. I was just 10 and remember having gone and hidden the books on terrace. I too acquired some of his socialist leanings, as I led a trade union of 500 India-wide employees of Blaze Advertising Pvt Ltd, where I worked during 1969/73. It was quite a task dealing with President of All India Trade Union Congress, H N Trivedi who was a very tricky character. We had to leave him and join a trade union leader named Khanolkar, who had defended Datta Samant in a murder case. We finally realised that an out of court settlement would be the best way out to settle the fight between the management and the workers.

My father had worked in Blaze, when I was about to be born, however, as they were not doing well, he had left them and started a film publication called The Magazine. It lasted till 1954 and could not continue in the face of competition from Filmfare. I got my job with Blaze as my father had kept in touch with the owners Mohan Bijlani and Freni Variava. In fact, I recall that when I joined them, I was still 17 and the minimum age required to join a private limited company was 18 during those days. The HR manager ‘increased’ my age by a year.

Times were tough for us then. My mother, Daya, was one of the few Bhagnari ladies who had taken up a job. She worked as a salesperson in a saree shop, Apsara, in Prathna Samaj. Some years earlier we had been granted a personal loan of Rs. 5,000 (a princely sum at that time), by Late Mukhi Shri Takandas Kataria to enable us to take up a flat in Kataria Colony. He was very fond of my Aayee, Sadoribhai. I recall that our society’s loan was paid off only just before I went to Dubai in 1973. My higher secondary education in 1968 was completed with dreams of joining Science and becoming a Civil Engineer. I passed the Elementary and Intermediate Drawing grade exams of Maharashtra Board, in preparation for this dream. However, on the day when my SSC results came, these dreams were shattered. To support the family, it was necessary to earn and learn. During those days one could do that only in Arts and Commerce streams, as these had morning classes. During the first year of the college I worked with my father, getting exposure to the world of advertising and meeting people like Amin Sayani and R K Laxman. Our Colaba depot of Times of India’s classified advertisements was in Cecil Court, where Amin Sayani worked in the office of Radio Ceylon. During our visits to Times of India at VT, we used to meet R K Laxman very often and get to see the cartoon that he was going to publish in the next day’s newspaper.     

My F.Y. Com went off very well, as I was still working with my father. From Inter Commerce (as it used to be known then), I joined Blaze Advertising. I found the experience of studying and working very tough and fared badly in the terminal exams. Just before Prelims, I told my father that I wanted to leave studies and go away to Dubai. He first agreed, but after a week or so he told me to go back to the college and that he had spoken to the head clerk Sadarangani to let me appear in the final exams, even though I had failed in 3 subjects in Prelims. With Sadarangani’s influence I was given permission to appear in the final Inter Commerce exams and barely managed to passed with 37% marks. Junior B. Com and final B. Com did not pose much problem. In fact, my Dubai visa came on the day when I got my result of post-graduation in Marketing and Advertising. Till today, I thank my father for the day when he asked me to go back to my studies. During my job in Dubai, I undertook a lot of recruitment of programmers for my department. For recruiting programmers to handle the Y2K crisis during 1997/99, there used to be days, when I would go through 50+ job applications in a day. Every time I would discard an applicant for not being a technical post-graduate, I would thank my father for ensuring that I did not remain an under-graduate.

My father was a good sports person and used to represent his teams in Cricket and Table Tennis. He kept doing Yoga, just until a few months before he died. For a brief period, he was also in the Youth Committee of the Panchayat. His death came as a result of brain tumour. He spent his last days at Shanti Avedna Sadan, where only terminally ill patients are admitted. We still visit this place, which is located near Mount Mary Church, Bandra. It’s an oasis of tranquility in Mumbai.

16th July is his 31st death anniversary. Om Shanti, Daddy. Thank you for making me, what I am today.

There is learning in everything – Deepa (Laji) Bhagnari

Since my childhood I have always loved to read. I think I started reading fairy tales and then graduated to reading comics..short stories in magazines and then novels of the fabulous five by Enid Blyton ..and from then my romance with books started..and being a Pisces I always became so involved with the characters of the stories I read that I practically used to think I am a part of them just like Alice in Wonderland.

The other day as I was surfing the net I happened to read all about different species of animals and birds and the aquatic mammals. Really I had never in my wildest dreams dreamt that we humans could learn from them some very valuable lessons of life. I realised that animals all have some distinct quality which is very unique. We all know that Dogs are mans best companion as their loyalty is unmatchable..I wonder if any human can match their love and devotion to their masters. Then there are cats who teach us cleanliness, as they are very particular about their hygiene…Horses teach us confidence. Elephants are strong but meek they teach us forgiveness.. Turtles say slow down and enjoy the moment. Honey bees say work hard and dream big,as nothing worth having comes easy. Lion the king of the jungle teaches us bravery..Spiders teach us determination they never make their web in one attempt but they try and try till they succeed. I think I love this quality as today with all the modern technology and the social media etc there is so much to learn everyday…I keep on learning and sometimes I fail but again like the spider restart till I complete my task…as I always tell myself “I am not a quitter” Leopards stalks its prey with patience..and patience is the greatest virtue we can learn in this fast forward life. Rhinoceros are the second largest mammals ..they are strong but herbivores ..they feed on grass so now we know that one can be strong and healthy even by only eating greens. Orangutans and apes are the most intelligent..they imitate everything that they see new..they are a curious lot. And the smallest little ant teaches us the biggest lesson of life …they teach us teamwork..you will always find them together. And here we humans are so selfish that we want to walk the path alone so that we alone reach the top..but they say work together you will only reach your goals faster. Really fascinating isn’t it ?

Learning is always an ongoing and never ending process. I personally think that we are all students till our last breath. As we are always learning something new everyday..from everyone around us. When we are young our parents are our gurus who teach us valuable lessons of love and sacrifice. Our siblings teach us love..companionship..helping one another and so much more. Then comes school time where we have wonderful teachers who have so much knowledge to impart that I don’t think we can repay their debt in any way thru out our life. I still remember my beloved Canossa Convent and my wonderful and loving teachers like Miss Millicent..Miss Ophelia..Miss Vasanti Patil..Miss Kamla ..Mrs.Disa.. Miss Mira..Mother Edna ..Mother Trexi and so many more. Love them all as they have shaped and moulded our personality. Today we are what we are because of them.

Then comes college and a little bit of independence but it is here that we learn to hone our skills to perfection …of course ably guided by our learned professors. I was in Jaihind College where we had the best four years of our life as my dear friend Geeta Kanar always says. I remember our professors there like Mr. Rao..Mr. Mistry both my English and Advanced English professors..they always read my essays and Referce to Context answers in the staff room near all the other professors and that was indeed a proud moment for me when I got to know about it. Then Professor Balaporiya my French professor who had a soft spot for me as I always excelled in French..Mr. Hitler as we called him..was our history professor and history was a subject I loved. Anyways College taught us that we can be independent but never step out of line as there are always boundaries which we should never cross. And I am sure we never did it.

Then comes marriage and different responsibilities…but learning doesn’t stop as I told you it is an ongoing process. Now here you learn adjustment with your new family as you go to live in a new house where maybe the rules and way of life..their thinking is different..but one learns…..all do. Here I had an excellent guru …my loving mother in law Sita Bhagnari who taught me everything from scratch..cooking..cleaning everything as I was a complete novice too busy with my studies so never really learnt anything else. 😁 Moreover she taught me how to adjust in a joint family..that is the best lesson I have learnt from her…maybe many may find it strange but I think I am old fashioned enough so I love joint families where you all stay together in one big house..never lonely..never short of company..never scared..always someone there to help you ..advice you and of course to love you. Nowadays it is Hum Do aur humare do.. well times have changed so has thinking. There are always advantages and disadvantages in both. The key tool here is adjustment. A valuable lesson I learnt and I am sure all do.

And I cannot forget unforgettable real life stories of courage and determination which I myself have experienced in my life. The first being my beloved mother Lila Mehta..at the age of 70 she was diagnosed with cancer. We were all devastated ..our world was shattered…I remember asking the Doctor if my mother would be cured and his reply was she has around six months to live. I just collapsed right there. But my mom did not even give any importance to her disease ..she was only worried about my Dad being taken care of..getting his food in time etc etc…her world revolved round taking care of my dad..she knew she had to fight the battle for my dads sake..and she did it with her positivity and proved all the doctors wrong. That is her courage and determination . Then comes my mother in law Sita Bhagnari who was unable to walk without crutches or a walker and that too with great difficulty but that didn’t deter her zest for life…she never said no for anything..would accompany us to all family functions ..weddings..celebrations even though it meant her sitting on the stairs and going up backwards ..painstakingly she did it..she must be in pain but there was always a smile on her lips..and I am glad she had that spirit as we loved having her with us and she loved being social. How can I forget my friend Geeta Kanar who has been handicapped since years and walks with great difficulty but still comes down for her kirtans and goes to kitty parties. How can I forget that after coming down her three floors she has the gumption to climb two floors up to meet my mom who is bed ridden..she went there gave my mother company ..revoked memories of our childhood days and bought a smile on her lips..something so considerate only a true friend can do..Love you Geeta till eternity. Proud to have you as my friend. My dear sister Lata Kataria (Seema Mehta) who battled a traumatic disease bravely with a smile on her lips..never asking the question “why me”? Courage ..Grit and Determination three qualities that all four of them possess.. indeed they are Women of Substance. We all can learn from them.

So basically one is always learning..from colleagues..bosses…peers.. but the best lessons of life you sometimes learn from young children who have no hidden agendas or motives..who know nothing of selfishness etc. I myself have been fascinated with my own granddaughter Amara..sometimes whilst I speak to her she suddenly comes up with such a deep and meaningful reply which astonishes me. Really incredible that you can learn from such young and innocent children. So that shows us that we have teachers all around us .

And last but not the least our spiritual Gurus who teach us to be good human beings and teach us to walk the right path in life. We owe a lot to them for our spiritual growth.

So to sum it all up we have to remember that there are lessons to be learned everyday of our life…we can never quit being students… but the huge campus of life has now replaced our schools and colleges. And so let’s continue learning and growing everyday.

One valuable lesson I learnt from Mother Teresa is that helpings hands are better than praying lips. So try and help as many as you can . You will only get blessings in return and one cannot but want more of that..

SHREE BHAGNARI PANCHAYAT

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